Conversations are fine, in themselves, as far as they go. But....
When matters of importance need to be addressed, there MUST come a time for ACTION.
For that you will need to have a stiff drink. Courage. Clarity.
That's what a tavern serves.
To ask someone to 'just listen' is what a Dis-empowering person does.
To insist that they 'must' 'only' listen is oppression.
It is 'Passive-Aggressive'.
"All I want is for you to listen.... and then say what a 'poor me' I am.... and then give in to my demands. Or else."
What do you do to a nail?